It's normal for the front mount (the one near the radiator) to appear as if bearing no weight, even if it is brand new.
There is no real way to adjust the engine mounts, unless you want to get into shimming them for whatever reason. Just make sure that they are securely bolted down and torqued to spec, and that the through bolts are tight.
With that said, if you are noticing excessive vibration, you are right to suspect that one or more of your mounts are bad - especially given the age of your car. Start by replacing the one on the timing belt side. This one has the most noticeable effect on the vibration overall.
Unfortunately, unless your mounts are completely shot, visual inspection will not really tell you anything about their condition.
One test you can do with an automatic transmission. You may need an assistant for this. Open the hood. Start the car. Step on the brake pedal. Keeping your foot solidly on the brake pedal, shift from "Park" to "Reverse" then to "Drive" then back to "Reverse" back and forth a few times. and observe the movement of the engine when you do so. If you notice "excessive" movement this tells you one or more of the mounts are bad.
As I said before, the timing belt/right fender mount is key.
Frank
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